
It’s saddening me that ½ of marriages are ending in divorce, for whatever reason. The reality is that marriage is under attack and someone has to search out an answer. Here is the reality; many people don’t allow God to pick out their mates, and we have a major epidemic of improper dating and courting. It’s amazing to me how careless some are when it comes to the selection of their mate. Who you marry does matter and it’s the second greatest decision of your entire life.
There isn’t a decision that is more important to you except your decision to serve God. Life has enough challenges and pressures that you don’t want to add to by marrying the person you were never meant to marry.
It’s much better to stay single than to marry the wrong person.
What can we learn from Adam and Eve?
What did Adam do to get Eve? ------Nothing at all
God put him to sleep, he woke up, and his soul mate was lying right next to him. While that isn’t going to happen exactly like that for us, God will make sure that your path crosses with the person you are suppose to marry.
Courting couple should have real communications before engagement. It’s wise to take the time to really get to know someone before you get physical. Ouch, did I just say that? Is it really important to go as long as you can without getting physical? Absolutely, your first kiss should mean something, and the longer you can wait the more intimate your relationship will be. Too many relationships are only built off lust and physical connection.
Couples that only are connected physically will have major problems in the early years of their marriage. You should take the time to really get to know someone before you kiss them or get physical; your relationship will be so much healthier. While we may have all blown it here and gotten more physical than we should have, I’d like to encourage you to slam on the brakes, put your car in reverse, turn around, and get on the right road. God is merciful and does allow U turns. It’s important that you turn around, starting right now, and reserve your physical passion for marriage.
In a perfect world there would be no sexual abuse, mistakes, rejection, cheating, divorce, or sexual scars. However, the world that I live in and the people that live in this world have been scarred by sexual immorality, past or sadly a divorce. It’s vitally important that you become healed and whole from whatever scar or bad relationship you had in the past. People that are continually jumping from one relationship to another are simply not wise. It’s dangerous to enter another relationship if you are not healed from your past or previous broken relationships.
James 1:12 says, "Blessed is the man(woman)who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love Him."
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. God is bigger than your past. While you may have scars and consequences of your past, it doesn’t have to dictate your future happiness. God is a good God and will give mercy to His people. You have a bright future and God is going to send your lifetime companion to you when the time is right.
Just go to sleep and let God pick your mate out for you.